The Spontaneous Woman - A must read for every woman

While every man is different, there are certain things about a woman that will make any man stand up, take notice, and make him decide you are the woman for him.

Every man knows what they look out for in a woman. No man want a woman who is non spontaneous and inventive. Men likes women who are well aware, intelligent and a master of her art.

I’m going to take you inside a man’s mind so you understand what it takes to trigger a man’s heart into staying committed to you.  

Everything I will discussed here will be centered on being spontaneous. A man may not tell you directly, but he loves some certain random things you do. 

-Be Spontaneous and unpredictable Men like women who can be so spontaneous and unpredictable in everything they do. Don’t just be a woman whose every move and action can be predicted.

Try to interject fun and humor into the relationship. There’s nothing more appealing to a man than a woman who knows how to relax and have fun. You can do this through playful teasing, flirting and humor. Sometimes suggest something completely different like a bike ride, see a mocie a picnic. Mix things up and be open to new experiences.   

-Food
Sometimes surprise him by taking him out for dinner. Also when you cook, try to be inventive, and smart. Don’t be predictable. 

Make him expectant and guessing. Something like if he knows he’s going to be eating jollof rice for lunch, he should be anticipating the surprises you have in store for him. (That is learn how to cook a particular meal in more than 20 different way). Maybe the last time he ate jollof rice, it was cooked with palm oil, dried fish and vegetables. But this time make him expect something different like cooking it with gizzard, chicken coupled with salad. This should be so with other meals as well. 

-How you dress  
Many women are very guilty of this. They think after getting a man, its okay to relax and revert back to their normal self. This is all wrong. You know what you did to get his attention, after getting it, you don’t have to stop there, you have to go the extra mile to blow his mind. Make him like you the more, dress to kill. Dress like he hasn’t see the best of you yet. Surprise him with how good you are with fashion and styles and he’s gonna want to be with you always.   

-A woman should be playful
There’s something that drives men wild and invites them into a deeper level of “connection” – and that’s play. Men are like kids and love to be active and to play. They were raised to express themselves and connect with those around them through action. The experiences you create with him attracts him more to you.

Watch or play sports together, be competitive in casual games like ping pong – even add a little teasing and sarcasm here and there. Don’t be too rigid. Sometimes the atmosphere can be boring, try to light it up and brighten the mood.   

-Be inspiring and independent
Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking for a “weaker” woman who will make them feel like they are smarter and more powerful. But that could be farther from the truth.   

Men want a woman who inspires them because she has great things going on in her own life. They want a woman who has her own purpose, her own mind, will and goals other than being in a relationship.   

As a woman stop thinking it’s the man's duty to set the goal, decides what you do or don’t do. Be independent and take the initiative. 

Men like women who knows what to do when situations arise. Stay busy in your own life and not suddenly make him your world.  

-A woman should be emotionally mature 
In a relationship, a situation will eventually come up where you and a man will see something differently and misunderstand each other. How will you respond to this and share your feelings?   

A woman should be able to show maturity to not blame or criticize a man for what she’s feeling, but to share her feelings in an honest and authentic way that helps a man better understand her.   

How a woman handles her emotions is one of the most important things men look for in a woman.  If she lets her emotions get out of control, this is a big red flag to him. A woman should be able to present her feelings to her man in a calm, non-dramatic manner. This way she will win his respect and make him feel more relaxed. 

-Get physical sometimes  
Sometimes get physical with him. No, I don't mean hitting him with an object or punching him in the face. I mean little things — the random hugs, the random kisses on his cheek, the random hand on his knee while you're sitting next to him, or the arm around him while you're walking or play with his hair when he's driving. These small physical gestures literally connect the two of you together. They're things that combine your energy and make "you and me" into "us."   

-Do funny things He loves when you do that funny little thing you probably don't even know you do like when you crinkle your nose when you laugh, or maybe you hit him on the shoulder when you're (a little) mad. Just be able to spring up funny surprises that could often end in laughter.  

By Olomo