21 Mistakes men make while texting a lady Part 2

Last time we brought you 11 mistakes on the ''21 mistakes men make while texting a lady.'' Today we bring you the final 10 mistakes. We hope you are able to learn from these mistakes.  

#8 Sloppy Joe’s

“I had a gr8 time last nite. Hope u did 2”

In what world is “gr8” acceptable? Do you think that kind of language turns girls on?

If you’re using text slang, improper grammar, or being lazy about checking your messages before you send them, chances are you’ve already blown it.

Read your texts before you send them and don’t use slang. Just don’t.

Note: LOL and WTF are ok to a point, but try to avoid these in the first few texts so you can test to see if she likes using them. If she’s using LOL then cool, use it.

#11 Too Cool for School

Sure, it’s cool to be cool, but if you’re too cool, you’ll cool her off. What?!

You’re not Ryan Gosling, you are you.

Don’t try too hard to act aloof and indifferent all the time.

If you don’t show any emotions she’ll think you’re not interested in her.

#12 Flattery

It’s no secret that women love compliments, but too many compliments, especially thrown out too early on will make her think you’re insincere, desperate, are a low value guy and ultimately just want to get in her knickers.

#14 Dear Diary,

7.30am: “Morning (girl’s name) X”

9.05am: “Just got to the office. 5 minutes late. Hope my boss didn’t notice lol.”

12:00pm: “Lunch break YAY! What are you having for lunch? Think I’m gonna go Pret :)”

6pm: “Finished work, going for a drink with some friends. Wish you were here :)”

9pm: “I’m back home, did you have a good day?”

How annoying is that? Seriously…if you think giving a girl updates on your day is cool, look at it from her perspective.

What the above demonstrates is neediness and we discovered neediness to be one of the biggest attraction killers when we interviewed 100 single women. It is also a little psychotic…

Even if she replies to any of these types of messages she’s only doing it out of politeness at first before she puts a restraining order on you!

#15 The Rambler

There’s a time and place for text ramblings.

Your close friends might enjoy the occasional monologue but to a girl you’ve yet to date, they will only make them think you’ve got issues and are needy.

No one wants to have to scroll through dozens of words to get to a point that could have been conveyed in just a few.

Remember, girls look for what you’re sub communicating in your texts, not what you actually say.

Always try to keep your texts as short and sweet as possible. As a golden rule, try to limit your texts to the maximum length of a Tweet (150 characters).

Get the date arranged asap because the longer you spend texting, the more likely she is to change her mind or something happens that stops her, e.g. she meets someone else.

#16 Forcing a Date

If a girl says she’s busy, respect it. If she says she won’t be free until the next week, then wait, don’t reply saying something lame like “that’s a shame, I was really hoping to see you before the weekend :(”

Don’t be needy – Brush it off, change the subject and on the evening you were supposed to go on the evening of the cancelled date text her this: “sorry you couldn’t make it tonight, Natalie would’ve liked to hang out with you.”

You’re not guilt tripping her, you’re simply showing you have other options, can have fun without her and have other women in your life.

#17 Pre date nerves

Insecure, low value guys will nervously ask if a girl is still coming on a date: “hey are you still able to make it tonight?”

In between the days when you’ve scheduled a date, don’t text her any questions, just share a funny story to build comfort, maybe a funny photo. Just make her laugh and don’t expect anything other than a lol from her back. She’ll think you’re a cool guy.

High value guys will nudge girls about the date: “hey trouble, did we say meet at 7 or 8 tonight? 8 works better for me”.

#18 Guilt Tripper

Making a girl feel guilty over texts = psycho behaviour

Never:

• Accuse a woman of something she may not be doing, e.g. “why are you avoiding me?”
• Keep texting her to make her feel bad, e.g. “I’m a really nice guy, no one’s ever treated me like this before.”
• Stop texting a girl just because she couldn’t make a date that week.
• If she and you usually add an “X” to the end of texts, don’t remove it to punish her.

#19 Texting when Drunk

Don’t drunk text!

Drunken texts never ever go down well, especially the ones that rudely wake her at 2am.

If you’re worried you might lose control and start texting a girl you like, give your phone to a friend or switch it off.

#20 Talking Dirty All the Time

Yes, sometimes girls like to talk dirty, especially bond girls , but talking dirty all the time will make her just think you want to get in her knickers.

Inappropriate comments should be avoided and it’s especially important not to initiate dirty talk if you sense the girl isn’t comfortable with it.

#21 Being Mr indecisive

Does this sound familiar? – you text a girl saying “Let’s go to Mexican on Friday night. 7pm good for you?” She replies with a simple “ok”, but she hasn’t included her usual smiley face in the text.

After receiving such a message, a lot of guys will stare at it over thinking that she doesn’t seem too keen about Mexican, so scared she might flake, he’ll hurriedly text back saying “…or we could go somewhere else if you like? How about Indian instead?” or maybe they’ll say, “or we could do Thai food instead. It’s up to you”.

Being indecisive is a massive turn off for girls. As soon as you doubt yourself she will doubt you and you’ll actually higher the chance of her flaking.

If you really think she doesn’t want to eat Mexican, rather than asking her if she’d like something instead, state that you’re going to take her somewhere better: “Scratch Mexican. I forgot about this fun hidden gem I went to the other day. Let’s meet at Tottenham Court Road at say 7pm?”

If those are the mistakes, what’s the solution?

The first step is understanding where you might have slipped up. And if you’ve made any of the 21 mistakes above she’ll probably be a little frustrated with you…

Because the longer it takes you to get her out…the more she’ll find reasons you’re NOT worth meeting up with.

Women expect things to happen QUICK when there’s chemistry. They expect to get “swept away”.

So because the window of opportunity is closing FAST and because you don’t have much time to turn it all around, I’m going to fill you in on the exact texts that will get her texting back, turned on and out on a date in record time…